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Outcomes of divorce on children

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Outcomes of divorce on children

2007

Divorce , while lengthy and sometimes hurtful , can be beneficial to the children and spouses . Children coming from situations of abuse and neglect actually benefit from the separation of parents . These parents may remain single or remarry , still studies have shown that the children have and are thriving in a way they were unable to before the separation . While there are exceptions to every rule , the divorce has become a positive alternative in some families

Children coming from homes where violence and abuse is an ordinary [banner_entry_middle]

br occurrence , are not only victims in their childhood , but are continually affected as adults . According to the Traumatogentic model , proposed by Dr . Finkelor (1987 , the abused child produces a number of different psychological effects and long term behavioral changes . Leaving a child in such a situation would not only cause continual physical harm , but also the long term psychological problems . In such cases divorce is encouraged for the benefit of both the spouse being abused and the child involved . After divorce children have been shown to thrive in the new abuse-free environment showing improvements in their education attitude , and overall social development

Another factor of positive divorce is the presence of neglect in the household . Accumulating information from the Attachment Theory proposed by John Bowlby in 1980 , researchers have compiled evidence of the side effects of the lack of a secure attachment to caregivers at an early age . Because of rejection and inconsistent attention , among other forms of neglect , these children have developed anxious , insecure or disorganized /disoriented attachments with their primary care providers (U .S . Department of Health and Human Services . With two parents this neglect from one or both can turn to a feeling of hatred for one or both parents from the child . This lack of secure attachment relationship then hinders the infant ‘s or toddler ‘s ability to explore his /her environment and develop feelings of competence (U .S . Department of Health and Human Services . Divorce here is an apparent necessity to the children involved . Based on the long term effects of neglect from numerous studies , children are better with one parent that cares for them or a non-biological parent than two that do not accurately care for the child ‘s needs

While being exposed to the process of divorce , children have become aware that struggle is a normal part of marriage and have been able to use their parents as examples . In a study done by Psychology Today twenty-eight college students were interviewed to see how their parents divorce influenced their own current and past relationships . The group was divided into three different groups according to their responses The first group were named the Modelers . This group mimicked their parents relationship , continuing to be dysfunctional . The second group were the Strugglers , this group showed a cautiousness in trusting others and hesitancy in opening up to others . The third were the Reconcilers . These students strove to learn from their parents mistakes and the problems they… [banner_entry_footer]

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